Prairie Doc® Perspective Week of January 1st, 2023
“Grief and Love”
by Joanie Holm, CNP
Writing about grief is like writing about life—huge! Where does one start? It is like describing love: basically impossible. The comedian and late-night host Stephen Colbert lost his father and two older brothers in a tragic accident when he was young, and said, about grief, “It is a gift to exist, and with that gift comes suffering. If I am grateful for life, I must be grateful for all of it. I hope that grief stays with me because it is all the unexpressed love I didn’t get to tell you.”
So even though grief may be difficult to describe, I’m working to do what Rick taught me: to share my grief publicly, as he did his death. As I’ve sought to live with my grief, I have found tips and ideas that have helped. Not every tip will be pertinent to every person, so use judgement as you address someone in grief.
Rick showed us, courageously, how to face death while honoring life, with love and joy instead of dread. Now maybe those of us who grieve can see the shape of our love in our grief. The poet John Roedel wrote: “Your grief is a temple in your heart that honors that love.”
I hope that I continue to find wisdom in this grief as I continue my journey.